So there’s a quote that says, “there are 3 sides to every story; yours, mine, and the truth.” We’ve viewed how both women and men perceive sex before marriage, so this post is the truth. The biblical view.

“Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” ² But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. ” (1 Corinthians 7:1,2)

In other words, the bible was saying that sexual relations should only be done with your wife or husband. Sex with someone you aren’t married to is a sin. I don’t want you to feel as though I am drawing conclusions about anyone who has had sex before marriage. As a matter of fact, one of my favorite bible verses says, “let he who is without sin cast the first stone”. I sin daily so I’m not here to preach to you. But, I am here to try to make things better for you in any way I can.

For starters, I’ve always looked at it like this, your virginity is the only thing that you came into this world with. It’s a gift. With it being your gift, you have to be extremely particular about who you give it to. Everyone that whispers sweet nothings in your ear is not deserving of the gift. I don’t believe in a 90 day rule, nor do I believe that sex is a requirement to keep a man or woman in your life. However, I do believe that (whether you are a virgin or not) if you want to wait to have sex until after you are married, the person that truly and genuinely loves you, will wait for you. If the person you are in a relationship with doesn’t respect that, then they aren’t worth your time or energy. The sooner you realize this, the better off you can be.

Secondly, sex creates soul ties. That’s what the man from the second post was referring to when he mentioned not being a whole person anymore. When you have sex with someone, your souls connect to one another. That’s why it’s hard for people to detach from the person that they’ve lost their virginity to. Soul ties aren’t created just from the initial person though, they are formed every time you have intercourse with someone. Here’s a link to more info about soul ties (Soul Ties).

So, if you are a virgin or not, female or male, it is completely ok if you decide to wait for sex after marriage. You avoid many of the dangers that come along with it. Imagine how proud of yourself you could be when you’re walking down the aisle towards the person who you’ve waited for. I’m no expert but I think it’s worth the wait.

From Me to You, Love.