“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” – Proverbs 18:22

I was on Twitter earlier today when I came across a clip of the above video that was only about one minute long. I searched the internet and found the entire sermon that the excerpt came from but I’m sharing this clip with you all.

As women it is so easy for us to feel defeated or discouraged when relationships with the opposite sex aren’t going as we would like for them to go. I can’t count how many times a week I listen to friends, associates, and even random women that I don’t know, vent to me about a their relationship or ‘would be’ relationship. It’s usually the same story.. meet a guy, everything is perfect, he gets distant, you try to fix it, he doesn’t respond well, you back off, he comes back, and the cycle continues. Don’t get me wrong, some situations are far deeper than that but this tends to be the general storyline.

Here’s the thing sis, men by nature, are lovers of a chase. Follow me… when you wouldn’t give him your number or the time of day, he was basically beating your door down trying to win you over.. correct? Maybe you really weren’t feeling him but he annoyed you so much that you thought “let me just give him a chance”, and in that chance you found yourself liking him. As time progressed you found yourself being the one to call him first and all of the things that he once did to get your attention, slowly disappeared. Let’s look at the flip side too. You all who are 22, 23, 24 years old worrying about growing old by yourself in a house full of cats because you can’t seem to find a man. STOP.

Proverbs 18:22 says, “HE that finds a wife finds a good thing”. Not, SHE that finds a husband. In our day and age, the feminist movement is so large. I’m not against it at all and I completely support it but here’s the thing. Being a feminist shouldn’t force you to downplay the role of a man in society. We get so caught up in one extreme to the next. “I don’t need a man for anything” or “I need to find a man to marry me”. Allow a man the time and space to WANT to court you, date you, or whatever you label it to be.

Einstein wrote, “insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting a different result”. You can’t keep chasing men or giving the guy that you KNOW is no good, your time and expect to get a ring out of the equation. No, sis. Like Mr. Gray said, wife is a characteristic, not just the presence of a ring. Work on you, better yourself in whatever ways you need to and that man who God has ordained to be your husband will come. Trust me.

-From Me to You, Love.